“Nobody likes being alone that much. I don’t go out of my way to make friends, that’s all. It just leads to disappointment. ”
― Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood
I grew up thinking and believing i will help humanity achieve.Years passed met people from all around the world at the end of the day i realised you can be efficient and do the job well but mankind only notices faults.
What makes us happy in life? Some people may point to fabulous fame and fortune. But hands down, its your parents who made you what you actually are. I have worked long and hard to build a rich, active support network. So nowadays, I spend very little time down at the bottom of that dark, gloomy well. Most often, I can prevent myself from falling in by staying connected to my friends, but when I do fall in, I speak in my own behalf.
“Social connections affect one’s life chances. People who grow up in well-to-do families with economically valuable social ties, are more likely to succeed in the economic market place, not merely because they tend to be richer and better educated, but also because they can and will play their connection. Conversely, individuals who grow up in socially isolated rural and inner city areas, are held back, not merely because they tend to be financially and educationally deprived, but also because they are relatively poor in social ties that can provide a hand up.”
Ask yourself these questions:
“What would it hurt to stop what I am doing and go somewhere where I can enjoy the outside world?” The sights and sounds of nature remind us that we are a part of the life force working in all living things.
“Who would I be if I didn’t define myself by how much I accomplished today?” You don’t need to care less about your work to care more about your mental and physical health.
“What friend can I plan to visit or invite for an afternoon of true sharing?”
You may not be alone, but do you feel empty? You can’t fill this emptiness with food. Feed your heart by being seen and heard, by giving others the gift of your full attention and by appreciating the beauty in the world around you.
Sharing this path with others who are like-minded doesn’t necessarily restrict us to those with whom we re intimately connected, but can include members of the larger population as well. There are many ways to cultivate and strengthen connections with others that can provide an antidote to the cultural alienation that is so prevalent in our society today
In the face of overwhelming challenges all around us, the only thing we can do is make our little corner of the world more safe, welcoming, friendly, kind, caring and loving. When we take good care of ourselves by strengthening our friendship network, it puts us in a positive frame of mind.
Having a robust exchange of friendliness inevitably enhances our partnership. But don’t take my word for it, look to your own experience and find out for yourself. You may be surprised and delighted at what you find!
© Soovan Sharma Dookhoo 2014